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[ParaLLL]

The world slides back a bit every time there's a crisis; it makes people afraid which makes them cautious which makes them close-minded. Can't say I like it, but with the economy and wars and terrorism I doubt much of anything could have prevented it. "It" being general increase of intolerance, not any specific example. I just focus on the fact that once the economy solves itself and people feel more secure things will get better pretty quickly.

[SilverDom]

Hawke pointed me here, so here I am. I'll try to behave, since this is a family oriented site.

Hi, I'm Dom. It's both a name and a title.

I guess I'm bi, but in a different way than most people I've met. I'm male. When it comes to, I suppose I'll say "friends with benefits", it's only with other men. But when I think about a permanent, long term relationships or marriage, I've only ever considered, and dated women.

Since it's been coming up, I'll throw my 2 cents out there, I'm somewhere between agnostic and atheistic. I just don't really care.

[Penumbra]

Welcome Silverdom!

I see what you mean. That's very interesting, and I suppose far easier, since, well, marriage isn't available to same-sex couples everywhere anyway.

I am omnisexual, but I sort of have a phobia of being in relationships with men. I've been in quite a few abusive relationships, so, unfortunately, I end up being terrified of good guys too. Quite unfortunate, but maybe I'll get over it one day.

Also, I am updating the rules a bit so that no bad behavior goes on.

[Beli]

4. You don't really have to stay on topic much. This is mostly a place to be open about anything and not have to worry about prejudice.

*Brings over a bag of snacks* ^ ^

Day of Silence is a day in which supporters of LGBT rights remain silent to illustrate the silence felt by those who are afraid of what will happen if they are open about their sexuality. Its understandable, of course, given that there have been murders over the issue. http://www.dayofsilence.org/index.cfm

Urm, we had something similar I think.. It was canceled actually (the gay parade). Besides.. I have no one to go with. -_-'

Horrible thing, it seems the world is going in reverse in terms of morals. In Uganda, they're working to pass a bill that makes homosexuality punishable by death or imprisonment. They did this after some Evangelical priests from the US went there to preach against homosexuality. Now people there are basically being blacklisted. It's like a damn witch-hunt. Makes no sense.

/has no comment

Hawke pointed me here, so here I am. I'll try to behave, since this is a family oriented site.

Hi, I'm Dom. It's both a name and a title.

I guess I'm bi, but in a different way than most people I've met. I'm male. When it comes to, I suppose I'll say "friends with benefits", it's only with other men. But when I think about a permanent, long term relationships or marriage, I've only ever considered, and dated women.

Since it's been coming up, I'll throw my 2 cents out there, I'm somewhere between agnostic and atheistic. I just don't really care.

Hi. *Offers a KitKat* :tard:

[ParaLLL]

*welcomes Dom* Interesting introduction.

4. You don't really have to stay on topic much. This is mostly a place to be open about anything and not have to worry about prejudice.

*Brings over a bag of snacks* ^ ^

Day of Silence is a day in which supporters of LGBT rights remain silent to illustrate the silence felt by those who are afraid of what will happen if they are open about their sexuality. Its understandable, of course, given that there have been murders over the issue. http://www.dayofsilence.org/index.cfm

Urm, we had something similar I think.. It was canceled actually (the gay parade). Besides.. I have no one to go with. -_-'

*sets up tables for snacks and pats Beli*

I am omnisexual, but I sort of have a phobia of being in relationships with men. I've been in quite a few abusive relationships, so, unfortunately, I end up being terrified of good guys too. Quite unfortunate, but maybe I'll get over it one day.

I've never been that interested in dating any guy, but that's mostly because guys I know tend to ignore me, stalk me, be gay, be related to me, or live on a different continent. *rolling eyes* As soon as one issue disappears, reality invents a stranger one. At this point it doesn't really matter, though.

[TNHawke]

I can add some information to the asexual side of things. For many years, even before I knew what 'asexual' was, I identified as asexual. In many ways, I still am, but in recent years, I've shifted towards a slight interest in the possibility of a sexual relationship.
Just like any other sexual orientation, there's all kinds of theories and reasons and definitions to go with it. In its most basic sense, an asexual is simply someone who is not interested in sex. This can vary from no relationships at all, to very deep and meaningful and cuddly relationships that simply lack sexual contact. Generally, an asexual has a lack of sex drive, but not in a "physical disorder" sort of way, although just like any other sexuality, there are those will worry and fret and feel like there must be something wrong with them. The mind wants one thing, while the body wants another.
Asexuality is NOT the same thing as chastity. Chaste people have the sex drive, but do not engage in the act.

Through my teens, I thought I was simply being chaste. In my 20s, I realized that there might be something else going on. I've rarely felt any kind of physical attraction to anyone, I'm much more interested in their personality and similar likes and interests. I've had a couple of boyfriends, and a few almost boyfriends.


oops! gotta go, I'll add more later.

[Penumbra]

Hawke, I'm glad you brought up that too. A lot of people don't seem to comprehend asexuality, and sometimes it is met with disbelief or they misunderstand it. I think a lot of people see it as an inability to love, when its just a lack of sexual attraction.

Very interesting points you brought up! I was thinking of adding an informative section to this, in which some terms are described (Even obscure ones like omnisexual, pansexual, etc). Would you like to make a definition for asexuality for me, I'll add it!

[ParaLLL]

I think especially definitions for obscure terms would be good; I think I've talked to two people who knew what asexuality was, and one of them was convinced I was referring to the biological kind of asexuality. I imagine it'd be even worse for someone trying to explain omni- or pan- sexuality; at least I'd heard of asexuality before I went and looked it up. And my family/friends/most people I know tend to be pretty liberal.

[TNHawke]

I'll see what I can come up with. Are we looking for just a short, quick descriptive?

I haven't heard of omnisexual, I know omni- means 'all', so I would venture to think it means having sex with anything and everything... but I don't know. Thus, even a quick definition would be good.

I've met the disbelief, and was even told by one of my "I am lesbian, hear me roar!" friends that asexuality isn't an orientation. I was seriously offended. The one person I thought would understand and accept was worse than the ones telling me, "Oh you just haven't met the right guy yet."

So, to continue with my previous train of thought...

Through my teens, I thought I was simply being chaste. In my 20s, I realized that there might be something else going on. I've rarely felt any kind of physical attraction to anyone, I'm much more interested in their personality and similar likes and interests. I've had a couple of boyfriends, and a few almost boyfriends.

Within my asexuality, I am straight... or perhaps transgender gay... but that's a whole DIFFERENT topic. lol. I've also run into the issue of most of the guys I know are either: jerks, already married, or already have boyfriends- mostly either jerks or already have boyfriends >< . Distance hasn't really been a deal breaker for me. My last boyfriend was 2000 miles away in another state, and I had an 'I'd consider him, if he was interested' asexual male friend on another continent.

A few things happened in the past 10 years to make me reconsider my claim to asexuality, namely the consideration that maybe I am a gay man in a woman's body, and also the realization that I am very Dominant, and a bit of a sadist. Kind of makes finding that "Mr. Right" a bit difficult, y'know? So, while it does annoy me when people say I just haven't found the right guy yet, there may be some truth to it. But even then, it doesn't bother me. It's just something that IS about me. It's just another one of the idiosyncrasies that makes Hawke the Hawke.
I'm about a month away from 33 years old and still a virgin, and not only does this not bother me in the slightest, but I'm kind of proud of it. 10 years ago, I was called a liar to my face when my lack of experience in that way came up in conversation. *shrug* I wasn't even offended then, just saddened that the person calling me a liar could not even fathom the possibility of anyone over the age of 20 having not done it.

anyways... I'm going to shut up now.

[PaleoMage]

Spoiler

The Bible does, clearly state that God hates homosexuality. He also hates liars, he equates them with murderers, adulterers and witches. When one is not picking and choosing what bits of the Bible to believe and cling to, one will find that what God hates is sin. It's humans who put 'level's on sin and "how bad" a certain act is.
The people who stand on street corners with their signs about God hates Homosexuals and Gays are going to Hell... It REALLY pisses me off. God says love your enemy, and that HE is the one to judge and condemn, not us puny, insignificant humans. If we want anyone to understand the faith we believe in, we certainly won't get far by being jerks to them.
Stuff like this is why I don't generally claim the title "Christian", but rather "Bible Believing Christ Follower". Yes, I do believe the Bible and God, but all of it, not just the convenient parts and I try to live by what I believe.

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I was literally blown away by the epicness of that. :'D Partly because I probably wouldn't have managed to put it into words anywhere near as well...

Anyway, is it alright if I lurk here? I won't bite, I promise. It's just that I know next to nothing about homosexuality (for instance, I don't quite know what the term "homophobic" means ) and reading this and asking questions could be a good learning experience.

Spoiler

Quite honestly, I say fuck the bible. There's a lot wrong in it that has been pointed out. And quite honestly, if 'God' loved us all, why would he want us to only love those of opposite gender, never commit any of the 7 sins, ect., instead of us being ourselves 100% and being happy?

Well, we were kinda the ones who messed up in the first place. Because God made us with freedom of choice, and the first humans should have had more sense... Anyway. I really don't want to get into a religious debate- it just makes everyone mad, and I'm no Bible scholar anyway.